We are in the days of smart phones, but
the people who are using those phones don’t seem to get smarter. The
technological world is selling so much to us and all we do is consume.
We want all the latest devices to show that we have arrived, even when
we don’t need them and those companies are raking in all the money.
Check the list of fortune 500 companies or other lists where big and
successful companies are listed. Next to oil are companies selling the
devices that you and I are crazy about. That is not the most painful to
me; the most painful is the fact that smart devices have become so smart
that couples have given their spouses second place after the smart
phones or devices.
Today’s greatest threat against
marriages might not be the young girls out there flaunting themselves at
your husbands or the big aristos – rich older men – promising
tempting money to your wives. It may not be the relatives of your spouse
who want your spouse to marry another person – it just might be the
smart devices in your hands.
We all know that communication is one of
the strongest pillars of the marriage. When communication is down, then
the marriage is as good as dead. What then is working against the
communication in marriages today? People are beginning to communicate
with their smart devices much more than they communicate with their
spouses!....continued
You go to work all through the day and
are busy with all the computers or smart devices and you still come back
home to get busy with all these devices. There are people who no longer
give their spouses attention because they have become so engrossed with
chatting away online and checking pictures on the various available
social media platforms. I think that the smart devices have made some
people become very insensitive to the people around them in their
houses.
We all have to check ourselves and be
sure that we are not guilty of this act. I dare say that the more
attention your phone or other devices receive the more attention your
spouse will be craving for. Many people even go as far as buying the
very expensive devices and they cannot give their spouses a quarter of
that money – either men or women. For some other people, you cannot
touch their devices because of the high value they place on the device.
Some couples also go to bed with their
devices always. While the other party is waiting to discuss some issues,
one acts out being busy with the device until the waiting party falls
asleep. These kind of things are things that can create more cracks in
your homes. When other issues come up you will think that it is those
issues that are being over flooded or the person is just over reacting.
You will not be able to easily connect to the fact that the smart phone
got your attention much more than your spouse and what you have is a
reaction to that scenario.
You can continue with your smart devices
or you can choose to save your marriage. The choice is yours. In all of
these, I really want you to remember that the life span of those
devices, averagely, will be from one to three years. In fact, there are
people who cannot keep a phone or other devices for more than three to
six months! But in those seemingly short months or years, there is
enough time to do more damage than your marriage can bear.
Is it going to be your smart devices all
the way or your marriage all the way? The answer is not in your mouth
but in your actions!
By Fola Daniel Adelesi
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